Wednesday, October 8, 2014

You are worth protecting. A letter to fellow survivors.


                                   You are worth protecting.  
                                          *TRIGGER WARNING*




Awhile ago, here on the Buckaroogirl blog – I shared something really personal and difficult for me that I felt The Lord was leading me to say.

It was probably one of the hardest things I’ve done, and it has also ended up being one of the biggest blessings I’ve ever experienced.

Sexual abuse and domestic violence is not something most people are comfortable with talking about…and it shouldn’t be.

But it is also something that, as a culture, we have to be able to discuss and talk about. If we aren’t vocal about it – nothing will change.

When I say my experience with sharing my history was a blessing as well as being difficult, I really mean it. At first, the terror of wondering what people would say after I shared my history was the most difficult thing. Then, within the first few hours of posting the blog – I realized it didn’t matter how it affected me in the end anymore. God had a bigger plan with my story than I could understand, because He is using me to help other people.

The letters, messages and emails started pouring in right after after my blog was posted. I didn’t just receive letters from girls. Everyone always seems to think that WOMEN are the only victims of assault-and this is not the case. About 10% of victims, in the states alone, are men. Grown men and women, teenagers and children who I couldn’t believe were living through this hell-on-earth at their age, all wrote with their stories.

Questions, answers and prayers. Wonderings, hope and despair.
It was all there. From all walks of life, survivors who had healed long ago-and those who were just trying to make it to the next day in their journey of healing.

The responses and letters I received did exactly the opposite of what I expected, it made my heart hurt to hear about all the similar pain so many out there feel, just like I did. But the joy that I saw in these survivors, knowing they were not alone, and that we are all in this together-made my heart full of joy and hope.





This is basically a “tips blog.” A post with just a few solutions I have found through personal experience, that may or may not be helpful to the survivor’s situation. I always try and respond to any letter I get from those who are struggling and looking for advice, but I also know there are those who are too scared or intimidated to write-and so-this is for them.

I’m not claiming to have all the answers. Maybe these ideas won’t work for you, but maybe they will. And if even one little tid-bit can help someone to not feel so alone, or not so scared-then I want to share them.

You are loved, you are not alone.



  • ·      If it makes you uncomfortable, don’t do it. This is the time to be selfish about caring for yourself. It isn’t being rude, it isn’t being wrong. You have to be a little rough around the edges to protect yourself sometimes, care enough to do it-because your health and happiness isn’t worth you being polite. You are worth protecting.
  • ·      Take time out for YOU. I am a huge people person, but I need my alone time. A lot of it. Take time for a hot shower or bath, a cup of tea and a book. Chill in your sweats and TURN OFF YOUR PHONE. This quiet time is good for you and your soul and gives you time to think and re-charge. You are worth protecting.
  • ·      Beware of movies, TV Shows and music. I used to LOVE some seriously heavy metal music. A lot of dark rock, angry sounding stuff. But I realized that that sound, and the lyrics (even though sometimes you can’t understand what the heck they are saying) are damaging and you don’t even realize it. Movies are the same thing. I love Disney. I cannot do torture scenes, babies dying and women being beaten anymore. And I shouldn’t have to. Neither should you. Check the ratings on movies before you see them in the theater. Go with someone who loves you and whom you feel safe with. Choose subjects that will not cause a trigger for you, and do NOT try to force yourself to watch those things. I did for a long time. I thought I needed to be “tough” and “just watch them.” That is not the case. It is harmful. You are worth protecting.
  • ·      You have been through enough. Because of the violence that has been done to you, you will be more inclined to hang out with people who will hurt you as well or who are unhealthy. I know it sounds weird, but it is so easy to let happen. Protect yourself and make good choices about who you hang out with, and trust. Choose healthy, and caring people who don’t drink and do drugs. It will only ease the pain for a while before destroying you. You are the company you keep. You are worth protecting.
  • ·      Take care of your body. Eat healthy, don’t do fad diets and don’t starve yourself. It doesn’t help, I’ve tried. Drink lots of water, and try to get a good night’s sleep. If you have troubles with the dark and sleeping (I still do) Ask your doctor about natural sleep aids and breathing exercises. Take care of yourself. You are worth protecting.







I love you all, you are not alone.

Xoxo

~Adrian


ps. If anyone is struggling and feels like they need to talk, write, or just rant-I am always here. Please feel free to email me at Adrian@buckaroogirl.com.






Saturday, September 6, 2014

VOTE for Buckaroogirl to sing at the NFR!

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CONTEST TIME! 


Ok, all my followers I'm asking a seriously huge favor from you. 

I really would love to see a WORKING real cowboy sing the National Anthem this year at the NFR in Las Vegas....

I submitted my YouTube video (because apparently this is how it works!) and the votes are piling in...but it's still a tight competition.

For everyone that goes and VOTES for Adrian Brannan at the link below and comments VOTED on IG, FB or here on the blog, your name will automatically be set down for a C.D Giveaway/ Art giveaway from Buckaroogirl.com! 

Please follow the link, cast your vote and let us know you voted! Winners will be announced after the first voting round is complete for the Anthem contest! 


Thank-you everyone! Lets go to Vegas! <3















Thank-you all so much! 

xoxo


~Adrian 









Monday, September 1, 2014

The Will James Days | Adrian Buckaroogirl | Old Time Vaquero









Will James was, and always will be one of my biggest inspirations for my music.
I grew up reading his books, dying to be like the heroines in his stories-and tucking away little bits of information for later in life.

The way things used to be is something I'll never get over, because although I love the life I live today-I sometimes wish it was still, The Will James Days.




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Song is The Will James Days from the album Highway 80. Available on itunes.





Thursday, August 28, 2014

Throwback Thursday.... WRCA style!

Hey everyone!

I know I've been slacking on the blogging end of things here lately...but it's just because I'm busier than a one-armed coat hanger!

I thought to fill the blogger-void I would share some of my favorite memories from previous WRCA World Championship Ranch Rodeo's, as I just got the news I'll be back again this year for the 19th annual event this year!

The WRCA is really amazing to me for a lot of reasons, one of them being their continued dedication to supporting and helping ranching families and cowboys in need through their crisis fund...

You can check out more info HERE in this WRCA released video (with music by yours truly)  and make sure you join or donate to support this wonderful cause. The organization does so much good, and seeing how it has personally touched so many lives makes my heart happy.


Here are a couple throwback from last year's 18th Annual World Championship Ranch Rodeo.....

What are some of your favorite memories from the Championships????

































I can't wait to see you all there in Amarillo....make sure you check out www.wrca.org for more info...and get ready for a good time! 


xoxo

~Adrian 







Monday, August 18, 2014

Buckaroogirl at the Wrangler NFR!

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Hello Everyone!

This year the Wrangler NFR is again having it's National Anthem contest....

And I am finally entering!

This would be such an amazing experience and so much fun to be able to represent the working cowboys in Vegas....

Please feel free to SHARE this video on YouTube, Facebook, Twitter and any other social platforms you would like, and let us know what you think...
Lets go to the Wrangler NFR!




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xoxo

~Adrian <3









Outfit of the day!


Today's outfit of the day!


The brand new Ranch Royalty "Cayce" jeans with red stitching (my favorite yet) 


Sissie and Me cuff, earrings, necklace and "Honky Tonk Girl" bracelet...


Ranch Royalty long sleeve T, new favorite!


Holy Cow Couture custom bag


Louis Vuitton wallet & RayBan Wayfarers


Corral Boots! 

xoxo


~Adrian ��




 

Sunday, August 17, 2014

Sunday Morning Coming Down....


I love Sundays....

They are my favorite. 

Not because I get to stop working (No, I never do) but because for one day out of the week, no matter how crazy the world gets or how "rebellious" everyone is - Sunday is something different.

People slow down a little bit more...shops close, and it is an unspoken rule that everyone is calmer and easier on a Sunday.

Even if they have no "religious" reason to be taking it easy, it is unspoken that they must.


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Whenever I think of Sundays I think of messy trucks and cold coffee. 

I know that sounds weird, but some of my favorite memories of Sundays are driving home (rushing) from rodeos or bronc rides in my messy pick-up, old country blaring on the radio and the windows down. I had probably over the course of the weekend torn up or gotten filthy all my long sleeved shirts, and was wearing the one T-shirt I would bring, with messy hair and probably no make-up but lipstick. 


And I loved that free, tired feeling of the calm before the next week started...

I still do. 

This Sunday has been beautiful and lazy for me (ok semi lazy).

I've had numerous cups of coffee, read in the sunshine and have been preparing business for the rush of insanity starting on Monday-and then.... *SHUDDER* the start of my classes on Tuesday for the fall semester.


How did school start so soon again anyway?! I just finished up with my summer class here people! 



I hope you all have a lovely summer Sunday, enjoy one another. 

Call a family member you haven't spoken to in a while, take time to read that book you have been meaning to - breathe, and praise The Lord for Sundays. 











xoxo


~Adrian 





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